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*This article is an excerpt and edited version of the "Parenting and Discipline with Young Children" seminar and consultation held in 2018.
*Available in English and Chinese versions
Q. My 3-year-old is fussing to watch TV.
Since watching TV can make you passive, it's best to limit exposure when you're young.
I want you to engage in hands-on activities and play.
Therefore, I have only shown it for about 10 to 15 minutes during brushing time until now,
Recently, that hasn't been enough, and it feels like, 'If I can't see it, I don't want to do it!' They complain until they can see it.
How can we do it well without showing it?
A.
While excessive TV watching is certainly not good, a short amount of time is okay.
Some people are showing for 4, 6, or even 8 hours, which is too long.
Instead of just passively watching television, playing with toys and being active is more engaging.
It's important, but it's fine if it's for a short time.
Since children's eyesight is still developing, it's best to avoid focusing too closely and looking at things up close whenever possible.
During the 10 or 15 minutes of watching TV, I often wonder, 'What is Mom doing right now?' and glance over at her.
Your eyes will move, right?
As long as you don't spend excessive fixed hours in front of the TV or smartphone, you'll be fine.
Television is one of the tools for entertainment, so please use it wisely.
In the past, there were many people like grandpa, grandma, older brothers, and older sisters, so there were playmates to enjoy time with.
These days, the person who is often near children during the day is usually just their mother.
It's tough to cover everything by yourself.
So, for a little while, we ask the television.
I promised, "You can watch, but just one program," and now I can finally see what I couldn't before.I can now watch it.
Saying "just one" is very precious, which means there is a high likelihood of following the rules.
So, when you say, 'That's enough, let's switch the channel' and turn it off, you can praise them by saying, 'You did well to stop at just one.'
Please use it well, like saying, "Let's look forward to it next time."
Saying "no to TV and smartphones" is simply unrealistic in today's Japanese society.
When a mother tries her best to do everything perfectly, she ends up exhausted.
As a result, whether you see or don't see can disrupt your relationship with your child,
Isn't it true that it can sometimes take a while to recover from that?
I think it means to interact skillfully.
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Advisor: Yoshiko Uchida (Child Psychology Counselor)
Since 1973, I have been providing consultation services at several public health centers in Tokyo. Since 1998, I have been running the "Children's Consultation Room: Momo's Room," where I hold group counseling sessions for issues such as school refusal, delinquency, and social withdrawal. I have also served as a part-time lecturer at Rikkyo University and as an advisor for NHK Radio's telephone consultation program, "Children's Heart Consultation." I have given numerous lectures at parenting circles across the country, as well as at meetings for parents considering school refusal and at kindergartens. My published works include 'Counselor Ryoko's Parenting Mysteries,' 'Q&A on Young Children's Lives and Hearts,' and 'Reluctance to Attend School.'